6 Traits of the Mentally Strong

Good Morning, Afternoon or Good Evening

wherever you may be. I do hope this finds

you in good spirits. Today I wanted to talk

about habits of the mentally strong and this

post is the first in five parts.

Living out Louder is all about the mind and

the body. The mind will be one of the most

important muscles we'll ever work. When

we quest to get our body physically fit it

is equally important to develop our mind

to get mentally strong. The more we work 

on these traits the more ingrained they

are into our day to day habits.

1. They don't expect success overnight.

Whether they are getting a new business

of the ground or improving their health

and fitness, they understand that lasting

change takes time.

2. They don't give up with the first failure.

Failure is not a reason to give up. They

view failure as an opportunity to grow and

improve. To be willing to keep trying till

they get it right.

3. They get up EARLY!

The masters, the successful get up early.

They MAKE the time to get up early and

get things done while the rest of the world

sleeps and takes it easy. How much do

you think you could get done with a few

extra hours? Some are always asking if

only I had a few more hours in the day.

Commit to start getting up early.

4. They eliminate the distractions.

Whatever that may be it may be high

amount of cell phone use checking into

facebook every 10mins or could be the

after work ritual of sitting in front of the

empty box for hours till we fall asleep.

There is a time and a place for everything.

They are working on their goals in place

of allowing to be habitually distracted.

5. They choose to see the past as a lesson.

They know what doesn't happen or what

does happen is of their own doing. Luck

has nothing to do with it. That everything

is asked for, believed in and then it was

received. They know that the past does 

not define them. That when someone has

made a mistake they are forgiven and a

chance to make things right in the future.

6. They don't feel sorry for themselves.

They don't waste time on things that they

cannot control. You're in your current

situation  because you either put yourself

there or decided to stay there! Research,

ask for help, do anything to change it if

you don't like where you are.

Change is inevitable but

personal development is a choice. 

That is one of my many favorite quotes

that I learned from my mentor that I like

to keep reminding myself of.

Nothing is overnight but with practice

these traits will become yours. It is

a conscious decision that we are here

to get better and better and uplift 

others with our strengths.

Do you have any habits or traits that 

you have used with great success? I'd

love to hear it the comment section.

I want to thank you for stopping by here

today. We're all in this together, if I

can be of any help never hesitate to 

ask.

Always remember to keep.....

Living out Louder

DV

What's YOUR story?

Your story is magnificent!

Good Morning, Afternoon or Good Evening wherever you

may be. I do hope this finds you in good spirits. I want to

Thank you for stopping by here today! Today I wanted to

ask you "What's YOUR story?"

What do I mean?

You know, that inner talk, that inner dialogue that you

have with yourself everyday. 

This is of the utmost importance!

As we are always trying to change multiple things on

the outside of ourselves, we actually need to begin

with changing the inside of ourselves.

Does your typical inner dialog or story sound similar?

"Life is so hard and cruel?"

"Why does everything have to be a struggle?"

"I never have enough!"

"I will never get ahead!"

"Why bother anymore, it's just not in the cards for me!"

"I just feel so lost!"

"I'm SO out of shape, I'm not strong enough, I can't!"

"I don't think I can do it?"

"I've tried and have failed so many times, I give up!"

"Every time I think I get ahead BAM life slams me down!"

Have you ever said any of the above to yourself? Is it 

on a consistent basis? Whether you know it or not you

are actually continuing to bring more of that into your

life! The law of Attraction states that what we think

about, we bring about. What we think on a regular basis

and with great emotion we will bring that into existence.

Now most of that concept, that law, is hard for many to

understand because it requires us to be brutally honest

with ourselves. Honest that most if not all of the many

circumstances in our life we have brought on by default.

Now many still may not want to understand that or how

it works but many don't have a real understanding of how

electricity works yet we know it's there, that it's always

at work and we get to enjoy it.

So the best way to change these unfavorable situations

is to start from within. To start having a better dialogue

with yourself and start telling yourself a better story!

Do that every single day! 

Examples could be.

"Life is a miracle and I'm ready for the gifts that await

for me today!"

"Love and Joy are all around me and I will do my part

to pass that on to everyone that I will come across!"

"I will live my truth!"

"I will never give up on my dream of encouraging and

saving someones life today!"

"I need to be the change I want to see in the world!"

"To feel more love around me I need show more love!"

"I am strong and getting stronger everyday!"

"I will overcome every challenge that is before me

as it another example to learn more about me!"

" I WILL FOLLOW THROUGH!"

These can be great starters for you to begin today

of telling yourself a new story. To begin to bring

about more of the experiences that you want into

your own life. Whether you knew it or not these

are affirmations but there will be more of that on

another post! Have you ever said any these to 

yourself? What would you add to these? I would

love to hear about it in the comments below.

Thank you again for stopping by here today and

I'm always here to help however I can.

Remember to keep....

Living out Louder 

P.S

Don't forget about our next Challenge Group

that starts on March 2cnd!

Competition vs Creating

The Energy within you is limitless...

Good Morning, Afternoon or Good Evening wherever

you may be. I do hope this finds you in good spirits

Thank you for stopping by here today to read our new

post we have for you titled Competition vs Creating.

When you think of the word competition you tend to

think of a race or you against another person in a some

sort of challenge and without knowing it you are! Let

me explain.... when we tend to see people in a house

we like, a nice car, great job, or even of a body we

we have we tend to go in instant complaint. Why do

they have this? They don't even value what they have!

Why do others have it so great where I continue to 

struggle? I will NEVER have anything?

Sound familiar?

We tend to focus on what we don't have rather than

the blessings that we currently have and enjoy. The 

focus though is on lack and if we continue to focus

and repeat to ourselves on a daily basis that we are

without, guess what.. we'll continue to get more of

of that.

So instead of this competing with others that we

seem to constantly do, get into a creation mode.

Many of the most successful are not concerned with

competition they are too busy creating!

We are here to enjoy life, we are here to create

joyous experiences for ourselves! What we think

of we will bring about - energy flows where

attention goes. We cannot be at a constant guard

of what we think, that's just too much work, what

we go by is our emotional guidance system. If 

anything doesn't make you feel right it isn't and

should be discarded. If it makes you feel alive

then embrace it, whatever it is.

The next part in creating though is the "work"

that makes us in a joyous state. So whatever

THAT may be.. do more of it! Playing the guitar,

painting, photography, writing, helping and

being in the service of others do it! Do much

more of it!

When you see the house you like next time say

I love that house, aspects of that house I want

that in my experience. The next time you see 

or hear of the great career get into creating by

saying I love that and I want it into my experience.

Seeing the athletic body that you favor, get

going start creating by saying I love that and I

will have that in my experience!

 

The take away message is stop the habit of

thinking that you're in lack and in a competition.

Put that great energy to better use a better you!

So get creating more states of emotional joy,

create more content for your business, create

more art, create more harmony within yourself,

create more love between you and your partner

to spread into the family. Count your blessings

and you'll find that you;ll have many more..

I want to thank you again for stopping by here

today, we're all in this together. Let me know 

if I can ever be of any help to you..

Remember to keep...

Living out Louder

Cultivating Patience...

Patience (photo taken by me D.W Fields Park Brockton, Ma)

Good Morning, Afternoon or Good Evening wherever
you may be. Thank you for stopping by here today.
I do hope this finds you in good spirits. 

I am writing this after an early long reflection on
a Sunday morning. The previous week was in some
respects a bit of a struggle, physically from being sick
and somewhat emotionally as well. Which is all 
connected to each other anyways. Nonetheless it made
me reflect on why the week was the way it was. In 
doing so it reminded me that I was neglecting my
Morning Mass and Evening Mass power questions and reflections. I also
came to the conclusion that ultimately I was acting
from a lack of patience.

When there's a lack of patience I end up placing
expectations on people and situations to only get
frustrated when the outcomes do not match all
my "shoulds". I once again have to cultivate my
patience. Wisdom has taught me that patience
is allowing time to run it's course. Also allowing
people (including ourselves) to work and grow
at their own pace. That more peaceful energy is
freed up to make good things happen. With the
entire universe everything starts with me first
if there is ever be any blame it is placed upon me.

There is a couple passages that I'd like to share
with you about renewed strength, encouraging
others and cultivating patience.

"Yet those who wait for the LORD will gain new
strength, they will mount up with wings like eagles,
they will run and not get tired, they will walk and
not get weary." 
Isaiah 40:31

"And we urge you, brethren, admonish the unruly,
encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient
with all men."
1 Thessalonians 5:14

I want to thank you again for stopping by today,
we are all in this together.
Remember to keep......
Living out Louder
 

Decide, Commit, Succeed

Decide, Commit, Succeed

Good Morning, Afternoon or Good
Evening wherever you may be. Thank
you for stopping by here today, it has
been awhile. I do hope this finds you 
in good spirits. Have lots to share with
you and to catch up on but this post 
was something I had to share first not
originally planned but something that 
has been on my mind the most the last
couple of days..

We all have wants, wishes, dreams and
desires. Which ones are really important
to you? Do you feel like you're drifting?
Nothing good really happening? Maybe,
just maybe.. it is that you haven't set out
a list of goals. You see Goals are dreams
with a deadline. No matter how big they
may seem or how outlandish it sounds, It
is something you are going to be working 
towards. Fix it upon your mind, decide,
declare what you really want! I'd like to
share a quote from Wallace D. Wattles.

"The more clear and definite you make
your picture then and the more you dwell
upon it, bringing out all it's delightful details
the stronger your desire will be, and the
stronger your desire, the easier it will be
to hold your mind fixed upon the picture
of what you want."

So sit down take the time you need, find
out, what do you REALLY want.

Stop drifting, end the randomness. Do not
put any limits on what you come up with.

Your goals will be your map to propel you
forward... doesn't matter how long it takes
you will find a way.

I wanted to keep this short and sweet today
to give you something to think about during
your day today. Maybe you already do know
and you have to focus back your eyes on
the prize. Allow this to be your nudge to do
just that. I'm going to borrow a phrase that
is used heavily in beachbody and that is....

DECIDE, COMMIT, SUCCEED

Always remember to keep....
Living out Louder
Dave

The Ultimate SIn

You are not alone.
You may think that the despair
that you're feeling, this utter
hopelessness has left you to
think that you are totally alone
in this world. That no one can
possibly have any idea what
you are going through.

The pains of disappointment,
of traumas may have left you
with the feeling of why try at
all anymore. So you have, you
have given up. Given up that
anything good will come your
way ever again.

You are not alone.
Your struggle is my struggle.

I am also here to say that you
can turn this all around. That
you can have what you want,
what you deserve. 

To fill your life with the child
like wonderment of what is
next. To fill your life once more
with confidence, with love and
people that will encourage you
to reach for new heights.

Your setback is the platform for your comeback!

You know deep down, there
is something in you. Much
more than what you may be
giving out. And there is! You
may have just forgotten what
it feels like.

The Ultimate Sin is to not live
up to your potential.

You are better than this.
Your setback is the platform
for your comeback. The only
way to turn this around is to
act. To make your stand firmly
into the ground.

You will not stand alone.
I will stand with you, every step
of the way. Throughout every
stumble, throughout every small
victory we will rise once more.
Together.

To go even further, in August I
will be doing the P90X program.
I'm now forming an accountability
group. This is our chance to be
able to show our friends, our
family, the world that anything 
can happen.

Most importantly to show to
ourselves once more that
if committed no barrier can
stand in our way.

Email me here Dave's email for
any details on joining our team.
Team Living out Louder

  

This is Not You

What are you, what are you doing?
I cannot believe you are doing this.
Wallowing in the dark, expecting no
light to ever come. Asking the same
questions that have no answers.
This is not you.

Allowing your old wounds become
your identity?
This is not you. 

You know what you focus on is
what will come true yet you choose
to continue to turn a blind eye to
what is good, what is right.
This is not you.

Why are you giving up, giving in
to people, places and things that
you know bring you only more of
what you don't want. What you
don't deserve.
This is not you.

Continuing on and on this wrong
path, I know YOU know that this 
is the wrong way to keep going.
Isn't this guilt that you have
been carrying around for so long
ready to eat you alive, eating you
from the inside out.
This is not you.

You know what you should do,
what you need to do. Why are 
you so afraid to do it? Are you
really that afraid of happiness?
That you are willing to continue
this way?
This is not you.

You know you can do better.
You know you need to work harder.

You know what you want and what
you will sacrifice to get it.

Facing your fear
Beginning the battle
Demolishing the Doubt

You will stand Triumphed over
every obstacle. The power that
is within you is greater than that
of anything outside of you.

Remember to keep.....
Living out Louder   

The Power of Love

The Power of Love

Have you asked yourself, "Why is everything

going so wrong?" "Why is this happening to me?"

"Why can I not catch a break?" "Will I ever have

a happy ending?" 

I can answer that but it may be very hard for

you to swallow.

YOU!

You are the sole reason for all that has happened

and has continued to happen.

YOUR THOUGHTS

YOUR ACTIONS

Not only have you become them but you have

attracted it into your life!

The law of attraction is really the law of love.

The power of love.

When you focus on the negative aspects of

what is and could happen, you are thinking

and talking with a lack of love.

If you focus on what you don't want, if you focus

on the negative you are inviting it into your life.

Thoughts and actions are a boomerang and

in it's own way comes right back to you,

Thinking, talking and behaving with a lack of

love brings back nothing but a lack of love.

What we SOW we will REAP.

What we GIVE we will GET.

Isn't that good news though?

Energy attracts like energy and all that we are and

all that is around us is nothing more but vibrations.

The vibrations that you give out into the ether, out

into the cosmos, the universe will always give back

to you.

Nothing new can come into your life until you are

grateful for what you already have,

Instead of sharing your problems start in sharing

your joys. Instead of focusing on lack, focus on

what you do have. Fill your mind with what and

who you love. The way you talk changes, the way

that you behave changes. The magnetic field that

is around you is glowing, is emanating the absolute

glorious power of love.

What you think has a tremendous impact on your
body's biochemistry. When you allow yourself to
think of the negative your body tightens, with the
stress, your cortisol level rises which will store fat,
your energy level decreases. Not only lethargic,
the anxiety, panic and depression creeps in. 

Coincidentally the effects are incredible on the
body when you are in a state of gratefulness.
When your thoughts look to the possibilities of
every situation even your posture is more erect.
The act of smiling to a stranger or of a favorite
memory or even of something you are looking
forward to, all the feel good chemicals are then
released. In fact, with exercise other chemicals
such as endorphins are released which help
in depression, anxiety, sleep and sexual activity.
Cultivating a grateful positive attitude is actually
harnessing the secret, the power of love. 

It stands to reason what you choose to put out
into the world doesn't it? Choosing the power
of love will bring light to every dark crevice and
heal the deepest of wounds. It's warmth, it's
hot fiery passion will melt away the coldest of
winters.

We have a choice every day.

We have a choice to not live in randomness
but to live with passion.

I know that you have been hurt. I know that you have
faced disappointment, I know that traumas are never
easy to reconcile with.

Instead of drifting and floating along we can direct
our thoughts and actions and harvest the incredible
power of love.

Find that bravery in your heart once more. Allow the
passion to flow freely, ignite that fire that is within you
again and share it's bright glory with the world.

The world needs one more beacon, one more conduit
of positive energy and most of all you need it.

Get rid of the thoughts and actions that no longer
serve you in anyway. Eliminate the people that are
in your life that only want something from you. You
know who they because they only take and ask to
fill their's and their needs alone. Life is about giving,
life is about adding value to those that we meet. To
leave them with increase.

To show our family the power of love.

At the end of the day, family is all that matters.

Remember to keep.......